Let me be the first to admit how much I hate change. I really just can’t stand it. Believe me, I have tried to like it, I’ve pretended to like it, and I’ve tried my best to embrace it, but no luck. Just to give you an example of how much I hate change, one year my family decided to change up where we went for breakfast on the way to the beach (we ALWAYS go to this restaurant called Cracker Barrel), and I spent the entire eight hour drive refusing to talk to anyone.
Wow….that really makes me sound like a brat. Honestly, it wasn’t that I didn’t get to go to my favorite restaurant that made me so mad. It was just the fact that we changed up what I was expecting, and I didn’t like it. That probably makes me a control freak, but I suppose the first step to solving a problem is admitting that you have one….or something like that.
I really think that’s the reason I’ve been having such a hard time this year. So many things in my life have changed, and it scares me…. People I thought would always be there are now gone. Family members I thought I would have for at least a couple more years have passed away. Friends that said they would always be there, that said they would never hurt me, have done exactly that. You know how people say that you’re starting a new chapter in your life? Well, I feel like I’m starting a whole new book.
I think there are a lot of good things about familiarity. After all, isn’t tradition doing the same things over and over again? Traditions can be passed on from generation to generation and connect you with the past. It makes you feel safe and secure.
One thing I’m starting to realize, though, is that as hard as change can be, it is necessary and good. Here’s why I think change is good, and for those of you like me who are resisting change, here’s why we should work together to let it happen.
- You learn more about yourself. I’ve heard people say that travel makes you learn more about yourself, and I think the same is true about change. After all, travel is a lot of change: new surroundings, people, cultures, etc.. When things change and times get stressful, you meet a part of yourself you might never have seen before. For me, I learned that I have a tendency to try and make things go back to the way they were even if it’s bad for me. I try and replace people who are gone, and I try and make my circumstances as close to they way they were at the beginning. In other words, I’ve learned that I hate change. LOL.
- It might be for your good. Sometimes when people exit your life or your circumstances change dramatically, it’s actually better for you. For this one, I’m not really talking about loved ones passing away. I’m talking more about when your long term boy/girlfriend breaks up with you, your best friend moves on, or you’re starting at a new college. Recently, this has happened quite a lot for me, and I’ve found myself trying to bring them (or memories of them) back into my life when they don’t have a place there anymore. Because of my extreme dislike of change, I’ve tried to bring people who have hurt me back just to keep things the way they were. Which brings me to my next point.
- You’ll miss out on a lot of really great NEW things if you don’t. Looking back on my college career, I’ve realized that I’ve done this a lot. I missed my old friends so much that I didn’t make new ones. I missed my high school clubs so much that I didn’t join new ones. Recently, I tried to hold on to an old relationship I wanted to mean something so bad that I almost ruined the one I have now.
- It gives you a chance to grow. This one kind of goes along with the other one, but if you stay in the same places, with the same people, and in the same time of your life, you’ll never give yourself the chance to grow, learn, and explore.
See! Change isn’t all that bad! ….I’ll just keep telling myself that.