So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years now, and most of the relationship has been spent 8,000 miles away from each other. Yes, that even sounds crazy to me. I honestly never thought that I would be where I am today in a lot of ways, but I definitely never thought that I would ever be in a long distance relationship. It just sounds so crazy, right? ….but somehow we found each other, and neither of us have looked back since.
Even though neither of us would ever give up our relationship for anything, long distance is still very much a challenge, and I would be lying if I said it doesn’t get harder the longer you do it and the more often you get to see each other in person. So….in honor of my boyfriend’s 26th birthday this week, I decided to do a post dedicated to trying to encourage and help others who are in a similar situation.
- Get Creative. I feel like creativity is important in any relationship, but especially so in a long distance one. When you’re physically together, you are able to show your love for one another through holding hands, hugging, going out on a nice date, making dinner for the other person, etc., but in a LDR, you don’t have these opportunities. That’s why it’s so important to be creative with showing your love for the other person. For example, on my boyfriends birthday, we both decided to get the same cuisine (indian) and eat it together as something of a dinner date night on Skype. I also looked up cupcake delivery places in his city and had his two favorites delivered to him at work that day with a special note on the inside. Then I decorated my room with streamers, so he could see them when we got on Skype. For my birthday, he sent me a little gift each day of the week of my birthday and got an entire cake delivered to my house! (just bragging on him a bit 😉 ) Now, I know all of this sounds incredibly cheesy, but just the fact that you thought enough about the other person to do those things really goes a long way.
- Communicate. Again this goes for any relationship, but doubly so in a long distance one. When you’re apart from each other, it is really easy to get so busy with school or work that you simply forget or are too tired to talk to each other. If you want to make it work, though, you have to make it a priority. I cannot tell you the number of times we have gotten in silly fights over just not communicating enough or effectively. Take time out of each day to get on the phone or Skype and talk about your day. Was it good? Bad? Frustrating? This is especially important when it comes to talking about what you feel like you’re not getting enough of in the relationship. Honesty is key.
- Research Gift Ideas. Giving gifts is a really easy and effective way of showing your partner that you love and are thinking about them. Keep in mind, these don’t have to be huge, expensive gifts. If the shipping isn’t too bad, try sending a care package to them and decorate the box. In our case, shipping is way too expensive for us to buy something for the other one and personally get it mailed, so we’ve started using Etsy and Amazon a lot. All you have to do is put in their address, and shipping is the normal amount.
- Say I Love You! Probably the most important one on here. Like I said many times before, long distance is hard, and constant reassurance that you are loved and they appreciate you is a must.