4 Reasons Why Your 20s Aren’t What You Expect

*My intentions in this post are not simply to be negative and rant-y as they may appear. Instead, I would like to use this post to show other people who may be going through the same things I am that they are not alone. That other people feel the same way even if they may not think so. I am also in no way saying that EVERYONE feels this way, so if your 20s happen to be glorious and exactly as you expected, I’m incredibly happy for you and somewhat envious of you…. SO here we go.*

When I was in high school, I had so many ideas about what my life would look like in my 20s. At the time, being in my 20s seemed so far away and out of reach. It seemed like the golden years full of freedom, adventures, relationships, and babies. In some ways, it has been that way. I’ve traveled to places I never even dreamed I would. I have an amazing boyfriend who I’m looking forward to spending a long and happy life with.

However, in a lot of ways, it has been completely different, and here’s why….

  1. Your life is no longer mapped out. Up until college, my life was incredibly mapped out. From the moment I signed up for my first advanced class in elementary school, I knew that I would go from elementary to middle school, middle school to high school, and high school to college. Even the college I went to was largely planned out. My biggest decision at the time was whether or not I should quit band and who to go to prom with. Once I got to my Freshman year I was fully convinced that the next few years would be similarly mapped out. I would find a major I was passionate about, meet the love of my life, get married right after graduation, and spend the rest of my life raising kids. Only….it didn’t happen that way. The perfect major didn’t pop out at me. The love of my life didn’t walk up with a sign saying “I’m the One.” Which leads me to my next point. doors-1767562_1920
  2. Your 20s are full of (what seems like) high stakes decisions. I was finding myself (and still find myself) faced with the seemingly huge decision of what I want to do with the rest of my life, where I want to live after, do I go for my passions or the practical job? When should I get married? SHOULD I get married? Do I even WANT kids? So many questions that seem to shape how your life will look when you hit the next decade of your life. young-791849_1920
  3. You spend much of your time alone. It seems like you’re never alone in high school. You live with your family, you have all of your friends in school with you that you grew up with, and you spend your after school hours around friends or participating in extracurricular activities. In your 20s, though, it seems like you spend much more of your time alone. You live alone for the first time. You live with people you don’t know which can be quite lonely until you get used to them. You study alone. You walk into a classroom of 300 people not knowing a single person. It can be very lonely which goes along with my next point. pinky-swear-329329_1920.jpg
  4. You don’t always have your best buddies around (or any buddies). Usually in high school you think that the friends you have then will be your friends for the rest of your life. BFFs 4ever, right? Unfortunately, for one reason or another that’s not always the case. As you get older, your paths diverge and before you know it you’re texting each other on holidays lamenting about how long it’s been since you’ve seen each other and how you HAVE to get together soon. You make new friends who’s interests and direction lines up closer to yours, and you may even meet a significant other who you spend most of your free time with.

So no, your 20s are not what you expect, but that does not mean that they are all bad, so enjoy your 20s and know that you are not alone in what you are feeling.

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Black Friday Haul!

So…. as I do every year, I went Black Friday shopping with my family right after Thanksgiving dinner. My family always likes to go during the night instead of waking up early to go because….we hate waking up! Unlike other people, we don’t really go to find great deals (although it’s always nice when we find one). Instead, we just use it as a time to spend time with family, get a jump start on Christmas shopping, and have fun.

SO, here is some of what we got.

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Before we went to the mall, we stopped by Target because they usually have some really great stocking stuffers in the dollar section at the front of the store and movies for great deals. At the dollar section, I found some really cute silver and white Christmas trees for a dollar to put on my desk in my room. I also found some inspirational posters and a clipboard to use in my future classroom because I think that it’s really important to fill classrooms with inspiration to follow their dreams.

After we moved on from the dollar section (or rather my family forcibly removed me from the dollar section….) I found a pretty awesome passport holder that I’m planning to take to India with me very soon. I also got a 2018 planner which I love because it’s so big. I feel like it’ll be really great to put on my desk to plan out the year. It also has a lot of room to write to-do lists for each day which I use to destress.

And, of course, for me it wouldn’t be black friday if I didn’t get a few Christmas movies and books. This year they had Christmas classics for only $4 each, so I got some of my favorites that we watch as a family every year. I also got The Lion King to add to my Disney collection (I’m trying to collect all the Disney movies and for some reason I didn’t have The Lion King yet which is crazy because it’s one of my favorites! The last movie I got was The Big Sick which is an incredibly awesome and funny love story. It reminds me of what me and my boyfriend went through when we first started dating, so when I saw it, I had to get it.

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Next up was Old Navy, which was probably the craziest place we went the entire night since they had such great deals. I got two incredibly comfy sweaters which I absolutely LOVE and some pajama pants with little foxes on them 🙂 They’re adorable!

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The last two places we went were Lush and Sephora. (I didn’t take any pictures of what I got from Lush because I already broke the bubble bar filming the video and didn’t want to do anymore damage lol) At Sephora, I picked up a First Aid Beauty moisturizer which I got for a really great deal! I also got a Hoola Lite Bronzer which I’ve been wanting for a really long time since I think it will go really great with my skin tone. Last but not least, I got the Urban Decay Naked Skin Foundation which I’ve also been wanting for a really long time since it’s supposed to be a high coverage foundation that actually matches my pale skin.

Anyway, that’s everything I got during my Black Friday shopping trip! I hope everybody had a great and safe Thanksgiving!

Cute and Simple Fall Decorations on a Budget

As you may or may not know….I absolutely love fall!! The hoodies, the cool winds, the pumpkin and apple scents….I just love it all! In honor of the first day of fall coming up, I went over to Walmart (your destination for everything) and picked up a couple of things to decorate my room. Since they were from Walmart, they were also all under $4 each! Here’s what I got!

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When I saw these kitchen towels, I absolutely had to have them! They’re so cute! First of all, I absolutely love owls (which probably contributes to my love of fall). My room is pretty much fully decorated with everything owl related. I also couldn’t resist the fox “Happy Harvest” one since it’s just so adorable. IMG_6932

Next, I picked up some actual decorations for my room. The first one is a mini pumpkin that I thought would look really cute on my nightstand next to my fall Bath & Body Works candle. How can you not have a mini pumpkin for the fall? Last, I picked up five strands of leaves to put on the fairy lights hanging around my room. If you’ve ever seen my videos, they’re the ones right above my bed where I film. I thought that they would make my room and videos look a lot more festive.

Happy fall everyone!!