Quick Catch Up: College, India, and Getting Certified to Teach

So, I have pretty much been off the grid for the last month. I haven’t made any videos. I haven’t posted on Instagram, and I haven’t written anything on my blog. I’ve basically just been sitting in my room working on stuff to get certified to teach, which is a lot harder, longer, and more complicated than you think it would be. There’s like this 30 page document you have to write and submit along with two videos of yourself teaching, and that’s only one part of it. It really just takes so much out of you when you don’t have time to do the things you really enjoy and express yourself.ย Anyway, because of that, I’ve been incredibly busy and stressed which has affected pretty much everything else in my life, so I’m really happy to say that I finally got it finished and can get back to focusing on other things I enjoy doing like social media.

I have to say that all of that stress really took a lot out of me. I got to the point where I hated going to school everyday and having to interact with people. Since I wasn’t enjoying what I was doing, I had a really short fuse with just about everyone, including my family and my boyfriend. I had to force myself to get up in the morning and get ready for school, and there were days when I really just couldn’t and had to take personal days off to get myself mentally prepared for the next day. I know this sounds extreme, but a lot of stress can just turns you into a completely different person.

It was also worsened by the fact that I’m not 100% sure that teaching high school is exactly what I want to do with my life. Don’t get me wrong. I usually love interacting with the students and seeing the pride on their faces when they understand something they previously didn’t, but teaching can be a really emotionally draining job since you always have to be on call for the students whenever they need you. I’m just not sure it’s what I’m supposed to be doing for the rest of my life.

For someone who likes to have everything planned out and orderly, this is a really scary thought. I’m graduating next semester, and I’m still not sure what I want my life to look like afterward. For some people, like my boyfriend, this is exciting. For me, it’s terrifying.

Luckily, I have a lot of people to support me through this, and I started to see a counselor so that I could talk through some things. By the way, I highly recommend seeing a counselor if you’re going through a major transition in your life, and it’s starting to affect you. It just helps me so much to be able to talk to someone and have them listen and talk you through it. I know that, for some reason, there’s a stigma associated with going to see a counselor, but there really shouldn’t be, and it definitely shouldn’t stop you from going. Everyone needs help now and then, even if they don’t want to admit it.


Anyway, moving on to happier things. For a while now I’ve been planning to go to India in December in order to meet my boyfriend’s family. Recently I finally bought the tickets, so it’s starting to feel a lot more real. I’m incredibly excited but also really nervous. I’ve never done anything like this before. I’ve never been anywhere near India (I’ve only been to New Zealand outside of America), and although I know about the culture from my boyfriend, I still feel like I’m going to be in for a major culture shock.

I’m going to try to blog about the trip, so if you want to hear more, make sure to follow my blog!

 

4 Tips to Surviving a Long Distance Relationship

So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years now, and most of the relationship has been spent 8,000 miles away from each other. Yes, that even sounds crazy to me. I honestly never thought that I would be where I am today in a lot of ways, but I definitely never thought that I would ever be in a long distance relationship. It just sounds so crazy, right?ย ….but somehow we found each other, and neither of us have looked back since.

Even though neither of us would ever give up our relationship for anything, long distance is still very much a challenge, and I would be lying if I said it doesn’t get harder the longer you do it and the more often you get to see each other in person. So….in honor of my boyfriend’s 26th birthday this week, I decided to do a post dedicated to trying to encourage and help others who are in a similar situation.

  1. Get Creative. I feel like creativity is important in any relationship, but especially so in a long distance one. When you’re physically together, you are able to show your love for one another through holding hands, hugging, going out on a nice date, making dinner for the other person, etc., but in a LDR, you don’t have these opportunities. That’s why it’s so important to be creative with showing your love for the other person. For example, on my boyfriends birthday, we both decided to get the same cuisine (indian) and eat it together as something of a dinner date night on Skype. I also looked up cupcake delivery places in his city and had his two favorites delivered to him at work that day with a special note on the inside. Then I decorated my room with streamers, so he could see them when we got on Skype. For my birthday, he sent me a little gift each day of the week of my birthday and got an entire cake delivered to my house! (just bragging on him a bit ๐Ÿ˜‰ ) Now, I know all of this sounds incredibly cheesy, but just the fact that you thought enough about the other person to do those things really goes a long way.
  2. Communicate. Again this goes for any relationship, but doubly so in a long distance one. When you’re apart from each other, it is really easy to get so busy with school or work that you simply forget or are too tired to talk to each other. If you want to make it work, though, you have to make it a priority. I cannot tell you the number of times we have gotten in silly fights over just not communicating enough or effectively. Take time out of each day to get on the phone or Skype and talk about your day. Was it good? Bad? Frustrating? This is especially important when it comes to talking about what you feel like you’re not getting enough of in the relationship. Honesty is key.
  3. Research Gift Ideas.ย Giving gifts is a really easy and effective way of showing your partner that you love and are thinking about them. Keep in mind, these don’t have to be huge, expensive gifts. If the shipping isn’t too bad, try sending a care package to them and decorate the box. In our case, shipping is way too expensive for us to buy something for the other one and personally get it mailed, so we’ve started using Etsy and Amazon a lot. All you have to do is put in their address, and shipping is the normal amount.
  4. Say I Love You! Probably the most important one on here. Like I said many times before, long distance is hard, and constant reassurance that you are loved and they appreciate you is a must.